The 23 years of Insanity

"The road to life is the road within....'

heard this cliche many times, but was unable to make some sense out of it. Even if it sounds interesting, but life doesn't seem to allow this to happen. Turned 23 today, and wanted to start a blog for a long while, I don't find any better opportunity to start this journey on the day when my family accepted me as a part of their social system. 23 years is not huge in terms of experience & learning, yet I want to share some experiences & wrongdoings that might help some youngsters if they are facing any sort of sinusoidal path in their life. Let's begin...

Since I've turned 23, so I tried to symmetrically divide this into 2 cracks & 3 hacks, that one can use to get some symmetry in their adventure called life.. :-)

Let's begin with the hacks -

• The SAC principle :

This is the principle I recently found, which left me amazed. When we try to study in school & colleges, even the work we perform in our respective jobs, at some point of time, it becomes monotonous & lack of motivation silently dwells into our roadways. The best remedy for this is S(Stakes), A(Awareness), C(Curiosity).

a) Start putting things in priority, give those things higher stakes which are important to do urgently & also needed to do it daily to add up as a part of your long term goal.

b) Aware where your attention is dwelling, we easily gets attached to people, things(like our iphones), places, etc without realising that it consumes our significant portion of energy. If you are aware how your thought process created & where is it taking you, you can control & channelise your thought process & yes, life as well. Remember,

'your breathe is your best friend...' ;-)

c) Be Curious about everything, never have any pre conceive notion of anything or anyone, Pre-Conceive Notion can only lead you to two ends, either you tell yourself you know everything about something/someone, or you just give up on someone/something. Here, Being Curious comes to rescue, Curiosity meant that you garnish your previous info with something new each time you face them, this helps you to find the sweet spot of following middle path.

 

• Compassion is the Key :

We always try to show our confident side to people. Sometimes, we become arrogant & dominant to prove our confidence as well. We think that they might follow our instructions & do our work if we keep on poking them, which is true for some situation in modern times, but not true in every aspect of life.

We search for happiness in things, people,etc but the real happiness come from being compassionate to others. Try giving food to a beggar or water to dogs, the inner joy which you feel will be uncomparable.

Being Compassionate to rude people often change their attitude towards you. They start talking kindly in a while because, I realised, all of us have an innate good quality which gets tarnished with time. We need to be more compassionate with people with negative thought process because sometimes they need help but they don't ask for it since they didn't realised the reason for their problem.

"Compassion is the road known by all, taken by few, its a road to the treasure of happiness & well-being"

•  Competence leads to Confidence :

Confidence is the game changer of one's personality. Even if, one doesn't fit into so called trends & norms, if one is confident about his deeds, he gets followed by the trend makers themselves. But Fake Confidence only helps you in short term, its the True Confidence which is ever lasting.

Let me take you in,

Suppose you are preparing for an exam, and you cracked it, it required hard work for sure but luck also plays a minor but important role in that achievement. When you get into higher levels of studies through exam or recruited into any post through exam, its your competence that will take you ahead. The ranks & post are just the so called social status, which will obviously make you confident. But the self-satifaction & self-confidence can only be achieved via competence in one's field of work.

"Confidence is a Crown of Thorns, Competence helps converting it into Crown of Roses"

Let's move onto Cracks 

• Being your mind's best friend

This is the wisdom which I came to know a bit late in my life, as per me. Since the reality is that we live our life in our head. We have been conditioned in such a way that it becomes pretty difficult to look the things as they are without any pre-conceived notions. Let me take an example, suppose you listen to a music, that music been prepared by musician who used several instruments to produce a beautiful melody, then music been edited by editor as per demands of 21st century cool guys, then its been stored on USBs, or directly uploaded on website, finally we hear it. But the question arises, where actually is the music is? Is it present in instruments, editor, USB, in air, in brain? Everything is dependent on each other.

This is a perfect analogy to everything that surround us. Like the music which has no reality of its own but dependent on things to bring into its actual existence. Similarly, things are empty in the way they appear, when we recognize that they are empty, things become less solid, like an illusion or a dream. Because mind participates in our reality, when we change our mind, we change our reality. No one is independent, even we've come into existence by mating of a sperm & an egg.

• Attachment & Aversion

Attachment & Aversion are the twin qualities of our mind, hacking them would help one to stay in the present.

Attachment develops when we exaggerate someone's or something's positive qualities more than what it actually is. Like when we fall in love, the honeymoon period only make us look at our partner's all the positive qualities in an enhanced manner, but once this period passes, suddenly our partner becomes a completely different being.

Aversion is completely opposite of Attachment, it leads to Anger & Irritation, its just the enhancement of our pre conceived notion on negative aspects of somebody or something.

Neither of them is good, but realising this truth makes one's life a bit easier, because we would then avoid clinging onto things & will try to look at both sides of them equally, irrespective of our honeymoon period or Anger period, whichever might be going on.

Personally this was the most difficult thing to embibe in my daily life because of my enough amazing past habits. Still I make mistakes, commit stupidity, but again, try to embibe the above as much as possible.

Here comes the end of this blog. Hope you have got something interesting out of it, which might be worth spending time on. And hope I've added some knowledge which might help you lead more of a peaceful & successful life. Happiness is Success. Cheers ;-)